Many people skip the “time” portion and jump right to the part where they want to meet someone else, often to fill a void and not feel the pain.
I was on the phone earlier today with a client who, unfortunately, is fresh out of a relationship and going through a breakup.
As I say frequently , I believe there are two main components to getting over someone: Time and, eventually, someone new. Not only would that be unethical – or at least awful karma – but it would also do her a disservice not to be able to sit in her feelings and properly mourn the relationship.This means allowing yourself to feel the emotions that come with the end of a relationship. Whether it’s sadness, anger or confusion, it’s important to acknowledge and process these feelings.
We all lose ourselves a bit in a relationship, so using this time to learn about yourself and grow will not only help in the healing process, but will eventually make you a better partner in the future. It will feel really hard in the moment, but like ripping off a Band-Aid, the best way to heal will be to block this person on all social media platforms.
There’s no silver bullet or shortcut to getting over someone. And there’s no right or wrong amount of time it takes.